Well ahead of schedule, I have a new home: ItGirlRagDoll.com

Come by and visit. Subscribe. Add me to your blogroll. However it is you enjoy me, continue doing so. Just, there, not here.

Podcasts and e[lust] posts will remain here until August at the very least. Most everything else has been moved.

A new world awaits…

Much love,
Harper Eliot

First, I feel I need to dispel a few myths:
•I have not gone off Bowie.
•I have not had any life changing self-realisations.
•It’s not a case of ‘Lady Grinning Soul’ “just not being me anymore”.
•This is not as sudden as it might seem.

In fact, changing my blog’s name to (It Girl. Rag Doll) was the first step in this change. I’ve known for a while that I wanted to change my pseudonym, and giving my blog a name that is separate from me was the first step.

Step two was choosing a new name. For the past three years I’ve felt extremely lucky in that Lady Grinning Soul – a name I chose half-heartedly and almost offhand – has sat with me so well. However, I’ve known for quite a while that were I ever to be published, I would want to do so under a pseudonym that felt more natural. Something that more closely represented a real name. Not least of all to dissuade people from asking me my real name. When I introduce myself as Lady Grinning Soul, it is often met with a face that clearly says “You’re not going to make me call you that, are you?”.

Why now? Because an opportunity fell into my lap; a piece of work to put my new name to. (More on that soon.)

As for the name itself… I’ve been sitting on the name Eliot for a long time. It has some personal meaning to it, but is also a nod to George Eliot and T.S. Eliot. Besides which, it’s a serious but linguistically beautiful name. (In my humble opinion.) Harper comes from author Harper Lee; To Kill a Mockingbird was the first ‘literary’ novel I ever read (at the age of eleven) and given that I am currently studying English Literature it seems like that experience might have had some bearing on my life. I also wanted a name that was unisex, so that my own gender wouldn’t colour my work too significantly (although I don’t ever intend to deny my own femaleness). Not to mention the musical connotations of the name which, clearly, have some bearing on my life.

And there you have it.

In August I will have the chance to renew my URL. When that happens I will change the URL of my blog, and that will be the end of the name Lady Grinning Soul. Until then, watch out for incremental changes as I slowly claim Harper Eliot.

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~ Top 3 ~

Strangers in a bar

Dealing with Abuse in Our Communities

Special Request

~ Featured Post (Picked by Lilly) ~

What Keeps Us Going

~ e[lust] Editress ~

Sex Toy Journalism: Seeking the Truths of Silicone via Flame Testing and Confronting Manufacturers – Why flame test? “Pure” silicone, be it food grade or medical grade, shouldn’t melt or deform under the heat of an open flame from a disposable lighter or match – a fact you’ll see demonstrated in the video

Thoughts & Advice on Sex & Relationships

Comparisons Part Three
Cosmic Vibrations
Momentum: Reflections and Impressions
My Feminine Fountain is Finally Flowing (I squirted for the 1st time!)
PolyAnna’s Musings: Attraction
Q&A Number 1: Play Partners
Sexual Bucket List (and a Brief Diatribe on My Self Censorship Hang Up)
The “Dry Rut/Root”! Non-sex?
Intolerance – Contraception Debate, Religious Intolerance, & Grumpy Cooper

Erotic Writing

Come Together
Encounter in the Spa
Flame
Good Bad Sex
I needed him there and then
inside
Make Me Cum
Namaste
Onomatopoeia
Play Lady Play
Quitting While Ahead
Rampage – YSL’s birthday treats
sleep
the Confidante and I film ourselves
third
The first time I slept with the Girl in the Red Dress
Timing Is Everything
We drink each other’s cum

Kink & Fetish

Assignment from M
Buttons
Cigars
Fucked Raw
Foot fetishists, come talk to me
Imprints
Make Me
Nice vs. Good
On “Closure.”
Practicing My Religion
Please Fuck Me
Snap

Sex News, Interviews, Politics & Humor

Annie fucking Sprinkle
Voice and the Author

Episode 22

Links for this Podcast
allemalice.wordpress.com
Alle Malice on twitter
iHeartAlle.tumblr.com
Red Lion Street, Chapter 31: Lady Grinning Soul
Captain Shame on twitter
Filthy Mouths and Evil Tongues
Filthy Mouths on twitter
Sh! Women’s Erotic Emporium
The Save Rubyyy Jones Hour
Rubyyy Jones on twitter
Ownership
Erotic Meet
Transgression
Penderecki and Greenwood at the Barbican
Daniel Nothing on twitter
As Is Custom

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~ Featured Posts (Picked by Lilly) ~

The Ultrasound and the Fury- I cried softly and my partner moved closer to the table so I could lay my cheek against him for comfort and support. Then they brandished a wand and explained they needed to take pictures inside of me. And told him to get out.

Vagina in the Wild – Adventures in Pantslessness – They are self-cleaning and self-lubricating. They are a wonderfully well designed body part that speaks of feminine power and beauty. They leave wet spots on the couch.

~ e[lust] Editress ~

The Ultimate Guide to Silicone Sex Toys – With Metis Black of Tantus, Inc. – I picked the brain of Metis Black, the fabulous woman behind Tantus Inc, makers of some very awesome silicone sex toys. Get your sex geek on and find out some myths and facts about silicone sex toys!

All blogs that have a submission in this edition must re-post this digest from tip-to-toe on their blogs within 7 days. Re-posting the photo is optional and the use of the “read more…” tag is allowable after this point. Thank you, and enjoy!

Kink & Fetish

As Is Custom
Consent and negotiation
Fishnets and Spanking and Sleep
In room entertainment
Ladies’ Night: My First Time at an All-Womens’ Sex Party
Learn the rope of knots: Overhand Knot
slapping…drinking…and other wacky fun…
That Moment

Sex News, Interviews, Politics & Humor

An Open Letter to Rush Limbaugh
Erotic-On Me
Eyes Wide Smut
Strangers on a Train

Thoughts & Advice on Sex & Relationships

Bondage Insecurities
Cunnilingus 101
Getaway Sex vs Everyday Sex
Gifts from Lover’s
Innies, Outties & 3-Ways
Im 35 and My Mum Can Hear Me Having Sex
Mono or Poly
Mmm, the kissage!
Never Pinch a Sadist #3: Relationship Rules
Primary? Alpha?
Safewords in the Real World
Shields
The long distance thing
The Next Evolution – Swinging-Open Marriage-Polyamory

Erotic Writing

A Good Day and Sexzy Night
50 Ways to Fuck Your Lover
Blissful Candlelit Climax
Cunny Honey
Easy Like Sunday Mornings
Fingertips
first date
In which… I go to my first party (Part I)
I’m the Slut
How It All Started
Mount’n Dew
Our Sex Diary (Part Two!)
Rain
Rendezvous
Some Truth…About Cocksucking
Sensuality
She Takes Control
The Chair – The Execution
The Beast
That Familiar Maddening Thrill
The Importance of (Emotional and Physical) Self-Love
Vignette 2: Traffic Stop
Working Out
Whore’s Mouth

My take on the current controversy over the censorship of erotic literature through payment devices.

PETITION
Stop Internet Censorship 

Links for this Podcast
remittancegirl.com
- Two Legs Bad: An Open Letter to Mark Coker #smashwords #censorship #erotica
- Pragmatic Compromises & The Moral Hazard of Expediency
- Erotica Writers: Be Passionate but Be Careful with your Facts #paypal #censorship #erotica

bannedwriters.com

tinynibbles.com
- PayPal Censors the Erotic Content of Indie Ebook Publishers

svrowle.com
- Erotica Book Banning Roundup – Part 2, and Smashwords Bows Under Pressure

Links for this podcast
Call for Transgression
Cruor

Welcome to e[lust], the sex blog round-up- The best posts from the hottest and smartest sex bloggers all in one place! This edition highlights topics such as STI’s, swingers and poly relationships, spanking, role play and so much more. Want to be included in e[lust] #34? Start with the rules, come back in February to submit something and subscribe to the RSS feed for updates!

~ The Top Three Posts ~

I’m The 48% – I keep breathing. Strangely enough, the world didn’t end at that precise moment. I felt numb. I stared at those two red lines on the monitor.

Can Swingers be Happily Married? Long Term? – Swinging can be an exhilarating experience. It requires sincerity, honesty, vulnerability, strength, forgiveness, and patience.

Secretary - I was a little worried: my intentions in placing the ad had been purely dishonorable, but her response offered no evidence that she correctly divined my intentions.

~ e[lust] Editress ~

Why I Write – And Respect – Negative Sex Toy Reviews – I call a spade a spade, and name it out for being crap no matter if it’s $39 crap or $139 crap. Crap is crap and you shouldn’t have to buy it.

~ Featured Post (Picked by Lilly) ~

A Little Spanking Can Go A Long Way – All I could do was hold on until it was over. It was more than I could take, but I took it and, of course, I loved it.

All blogs that have a submission in this edition must re-post this digest from tip-to-toe on their blogs within 7 days. Re-posting the photo is optional and the use of the “read more…” tag is allowable after this point. Thank you, and enjoy!

Erotic Writing

A Great Fuck
all my weight on her
Afterglow
a Masturbation Story
Bunco Night!
Fag-Break Fuck
Having him in my mouth
hypnopompic Apparition
Kiss Me There
Naked Underwater
Sodom: Enter the Fist
Soothed
Starvation

Thoughts & Advice on Sex & Relationships

A Beginner’s Guide to Spanking
A Matter of Lube
Attraction, Rejection and Uncertainty
Bad Vibes, Generally
Fluidity: Growing-up Poly Part VI
Going Down
Making Love
Never Pinch a Sadist
Near Outing due to Outrage
Porn, Pubic Hair, Sex & Reality
Sadie Says … Remember Santa Barbara

Kink & Fetish

Cruor
Hungry Beast
Later that afternoon – Part IV
Long-distance Roleplay & BDSM
Reflecting on Vacation Playtime: Part III: Tent Slut Slapped
The Dungeon Club

Sex News, Interviews, Politics & Humor

Odd Sex laws around the World
Post-Brazilian

~ The Top Three Posts ~

Assent Matters by SherynB – Find your emotional power to recognize and say “no” to what you don’t want BEFORE you get naked and tied up and give up your actual physical power to walk away to anybody.

Forever The Night – ‘Why the hell shouldn’t I listen? This is my home, my bedroom after all’. So I do listen and I do feel myself twitch at every minute sound on the other side of that fucking wall.

Hands. Fingers. Pleasure. – This was the first time a boy’s fingers had such unfettered access to my pussy. Prior gropings under and through clothes had never been like this.

~ e[lust] Editress ~

The Fake Orgasm: You think you know, but you have no idea – I am 34 and I have faked orgasms. There ya have it. But I have never and will never qualify doing so as “I did it for him”.

~ Featured Post (Picked by Lilly) ~

Sadie Says… Awake – In the haze of my missing libido I also lost myself. I began to wonder if I remembered who the hell I was?

All blogs that have a submission in this edition must re-post this digest from tip-to-toe on their blogs within 7 days. Re-posting the photo is optional and the use of the “read more…” tag is allowable after this point. Thank you, and enjoy!

Kink & Fetish

Connection, Intimacy & Trust
DQ Earns a Pass from Chasity
Five Little Words
Naked and kinky in a busy sex shop
Sharp Tongues and Good Pain
Sexual violence
The Duke Story
‘Twas the Night Before Kinky
The Pink Elephant
Who I Am
Who Are You to Change Us?
Waking You

Thoughts & Advice on Sex & Relationships

Busy Writing
Help! My Vibrator Won’t Work
Men and Visual Stimulation
Slippery and sticky and covered in lube
The Safe Zone – Giving Yourself Permission To Screw Up in Non-Monogamy
Until Death Do Us Part

Sex News, Interviews, Politics & Humor

Interview With Senior Sexuality Advocate Joan Price

Erotic Writing

21
A Read to Remember
Aurelia (A Dirty Kind Of Grace part 1)
A Fistful
banana bread
Christmas Day
Last night in Cap D’Adge
Later On In The Evening
Meat Hooks & Butcher’s Twine
Reside
Sugarbutch Star: blckndblue, The Pink Dress
she and he and me…
Surprise Orgasm
wind

Links for this podcast
#Shield - by LGS
The Erotic Notebook – Ruby Kiddell’s website
@JillandJackcpl
Open Box – by Jill
Novācula – by LGS
@JillyBoyd
Urgency – by Jilly Boyd
Devil’s Night – by Wyeth Bailey
Soiled – by LGS
The (Female) Phenomenon of Emotional Masochism – by LGS
@remittancegirl
Better Left Unsaid – by Remittance Girl
@PhoenixW_R
@JackandJillcpl
AislingWeaver.com – Aisling Weaver’s website
#Taste - by LGS

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